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I find myself in a rather difficult situation and would really like some ideas, or maybe just moral support on handling a little problem I have. I have had this friend for many years, she is elderly and lives alone. I know she needs friends to call and check in on her, but I keep finding it more and more difficult to bring myself to call her. Reason is because she is always so down in the dumps. I call and try to cheer her up but I end up just getting depressed myself, and I've got so much going on right now I don't need much to put me over the edge either. I know I need to call her. And I know that it is important for me to do that, but it is just so hard to do. I try to bring up upbeat topics, or at least neutral ones, and find things to discus that might make her feel better but it's really hard to do. The fact that we have totally opposite political views certainly doesn't help the situation, she is one person I sure can't even share Obama jokes with. Honestly, the older she gets the more bitter she gets. Really hard to come up with any happy topics. I do of course, understand why she is unhappy, she has virtually no family or friends left, most have passed on already, and when you get older you have all those old age aches and pains that drag you down, but I'm just getting to more and more of a loss as to what to do about it. Sure could use some ideas for this one. I have to get my own feelings under control too. It's harder to cheer somebody up when you don't feel all that cheerful yourself.

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When somebody has no family or friends, it's like waking up from being cryogenically frozen. Like the experience that Philip Fry goes through in Futurama. There's always somebody connected to someone else in the world within eight degrees of separation. At least that was the theory, and I think it would be true if they narrowed it down to someone in the same nation - I'm sure the eight degrees of separation wouldn't hold true if we were to pick me and somebody from an aboriginal tribe.

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Well, the TV under normal circumstances would of been a good idea, except she doesn't have cable or satellite service, so we don't watch any of the same shows. And what few shows we do have in common I don't like the same ones she does so that doesn't work either. I actually just got off the phone with her, she had a doctors appointment so I wasn't on too long with her, so at least I was able to keep it light for a few minutes.

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For someone who doesn't have satellite service, you could gift a DVD set. Most TV series are available on DVD after the entire season has run, or at least they should be. The only TV series that I couldn't locate after the series was aired is Desire: Table For Three. The series ran right till the finale so it should have sparked enough interest for them to offer it on DVD, or so one would imagine but apparently it does not have the mass appeal that they would be looking for. Besides, the only collectors' edition DVDs we find are for Friends and StarWars.

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1 hour ago, spencertully said:

find a professional writer who will create an inspiring and cheerful text for your girlfriend. Words can heal the soul.

Don't you think it's cheating ? This is precisely the situation where you should find your own words. Even saying "sorry, I have no word" is better than paying somebody else expressing your feelings.

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